Do you know how much understanding you'd have if you can just put yourself in the shoes of others.
Before you can understand others, you have to know and understand yourself. Many people think they know themselves so well and they actually don't. To understand yourself you will have to consciously study yourself, what your responses, reactions, feelings are in different situations.
Dale Carnegie once said something like this, "seek to understand rather than to be understood."
The moment people see that they are being understood, they become more motivated to understand your point of view.
The truth is this, most times, people are doing the best they can with what they know at the time. They don't always intend to cause pain, if they knew better, they'd most likely act better.
And I believe we are all more mature than asking questions such as "why should I be the one to take the first step?"
People aren't all idiots and you don't know it all. Learn to see things from the other person's perspective by putting yourself in their shoes and you will deal better with all.
